Why your New Year resolution is doomed to fail...and how to save it

It's a little late...but I have been carrying on in the party spirit a bit longer. Hopefully by the time you read this you are still going strong with your resolution(s), if not...this post will hopefully make you feel better about it all.

Contrary to what this blog post may seem, it's not intended to be downright negative. I, like countless other people, sat down with loved ones on New Year's Eve, discussed the year ahead and mulled over the resolutions we might make.

I don’t usually take part in the exercise, but whilst starting my solopreneur business venture into the virtual assistant world, I have been doing a lot of learning and self-reflection. So perhaps it was inevitable that the turning of the year would invoke a more profound reaction in me compared to usual.

It is not the activity that I am opposed to, it is the word 'resolution'. It just seems like you are setting yourself up for failure when you call it that on New Year's Eve. I am a stickler for the details and for me, being 'resolute' conjures up an idea of strong determination and distinct purposefulness. Everyone I have ever known has caved on their New Year resolution(s) around day five. Especially the smokers.

And here is why I think that is:

It's just another day

There is no great change in 2017 passing into 2018 at midnight. The only action that happens is the passing of time, and the measurement of time is a manmade construct. It is for this same reason that setting yourself out for the 'best big night out' on New Year is always a disappointment. Not because the night itself was a bad night compared to other like-ventured nights, but more because your perception of it was greater. The reality then becomes a let-down.

If you weren't doing it today, you won't do it tomorrow

'Diet starts tomorrow' - that phrase is dished out (opps, pun unintended) like a joke in my house when we tuck into something delightfully delicious and undoubtedly unhealthy. Modifying behaviour is possible but you have to be committed, it doesn't happen just because you say so.

Self-improvement should be ongoing

I was pleasantly surprised when my partner said that he is constantly trying to improve himself (for the record, this was shortly following his comment 'it's hard to improve on perfection...') but for me that hit the nail on the head. We shouldn't be waiting 365 days for the next chance to make such a resolute life-changing decision as the New Year resolution is built up to be. We should be working on ourselves at every opportunity.

And if you are interested, the only thing that I committed to in a verbal contract with my partner was that I will attempt to wear my hair down more often.

Hardly groundbreaking but I decided that ongoing improvement is more satisfying, fulfilling and less doomed for failure.


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